Let’s talk about…squirting!
The question burning in your mind: Is squirt pee?
Yes and no. The fluid comes from the bladder, but it isn’t exactly the same makeup as urine. It’s far more dilute and contains prostatic fluid.
When it happens to me, it feels like it comes from inside of the vagina. It’s not much fluid, but it’s pretty splashy. I have to use a waterproof blanket if anyone wants to give me an orgasm or ten (the kind of orgasm that comes with squirting is absolutely incredible and it can happen over and over and over with forced stimulation.)
The area you need to stimulate is the front wall of the vagina. Imagine me on my back, with my legs spread (get a visual here *wink wink*. If you were going to make me squirt, here’s how you would approach it:
Hold your hand out in front of you, palm up. You’re going to start with one finger.
Choose whether you’re going to use your index (pointer) finger or your middle finger. You’re going to use the pad of your finger when you’re fingering. Imagine getting your fingerprints taken; you’re using that whole fingerprint area. You want that wide surface, rather than the very pointy tip of the finger. You’re caressing, not stabbing.
Practice by making your non-dominant hand into a loose fist, and feeling the difference in the palm of your hand between using the flattened pad of the first joint of your finger and using the pointy tip of your finger.
The motion you’ll make is beckoning, or “come here.” Again, work on it by feeling the motions against the palm of your hand. Make the movement fluid and rhythmic.
That’s your basic fingering. A lost art. Learn how to give an orgasm with your fingers and you’ll be a very memorable lover.
For squirting, you’re going to do a similar motion, but you’re making it more extreme. You want to use the pad of your finger as a fixed point. This time, you’ll move your arm, rather than just your finger. You’ll press hard and move fast, in and out. Don’t try to be funky: you’re doing a job. You don’t need to improvise. Steady pressure, in and out, and go faster if the moaning isn’t getting higher pitched or more frantic.
You’ll stay inside the vaginal canal with your actions - don’t actually go outside of it and potentially catch an edge on the way back in. Your movement will be 1-2 inches only; in and out.
Don’t stop! Don’t stop until your partner does. Have a conversation before the sex, where you discuss a signal they can give you when they’ve had enough. We’ll talk about how to discuss consent and make it sexy in the next post!
Go get enthusiastic consent to make someone squirt!
Love,
Janice
